Life is full of decisions – some big and bold, others so small they pass almost unnoticed. But here’s what I keep coming back to, especially in the more chaotic times of life: everything is a choice.
This isn’t just some fluffy self-help phrase. It’s a grounding, powerful reminder that shapes how we live, lead, parent, and do business. And it’s one I’ve been living through, quite literally, over the past few weeks as one-third of my house has been knocked down and we’ve launched into a six-month building project. Safe to say, life hasn’t exactly been calm or convenient.
Yet even amidst the dust, noise, and disruption, I’ve come back to the core practices that support my energy, mindset, and my business. Including this: choosing to show up. Choosing to keep my weekly Pepp Talks going, even if that means recording them on a Sunday afternoon, the day before they go live. Because sharing my message? It’s a non-negotiable for me.
So here we are. And today, I want to talk about something I’ve been reflecting on deeply – something that’s threaded through the big decisions and the everyday ones: the idea that you always have a choice. And more than that, you get to choose again.
When the Right Choice Isn’t the Easy One
A few days ago, I found myself barefoot in the sand, eating lunch while watching my son scramble up the rocks. And in that moment, I was filled with gratitude – not for anything flashy or dramatic, but for a decision we made years ago: the decision to move to Devon.
From the outside, our life now might look idyllic – coastal walks, open space, connection with nature. But the choice to move here wasn’t simple. We had a beautiful home in Newbury. Deep friendships. Amazing schools for the kids. Everything looked great on paper.
But our hearts? They weren’t there anymore. They were here, in Devon. And even though it was messy, uncertain, and filled with practical and emotional hurdles – like my husband still working in Berkshire for 3 months after the move, or lockdown hitting just a few weeks later – it was the right choice.
Because sometimes the right choice doesn’t look like the logical one. It looks like the aligned one. The one that pulls at your heart, even if it disrupts your plans, and upsets those you leave behind.
The Micro-Decisions That Shape Everything
We often think of choices in the big, dramatic moments: changing careers, ending relationships, moving house. But the truth is, the real shape of your life is formed in your small, daily decisions.
You choose what time to wake up.
You choose whether you reach for your phone or your breath first thing.
You choose how you respond to your children, your partner, that car that cut you off in traffic.
You choose what’s in your calendar.
You choose how you honour your boundaries – or whether you let them slip.
When life feels like it’s moving at a million miles an hour, it can seem like we’re at the mercy of everything. But you are never powerless. You always have a choice. And that choice? It’s your power.
Now, I’m not saying we get to control everything. We don’t. Life throws curveballs – like our builders showing up with 48 hours’ notice to start some serious demolition work. But even in those moments, you get to decide how you respond. You get to decide whether to spiral into panic or to ground yourself, protect your energy, and move forward with intention.
You’re Not Stuck. You’re Just Tired.
I work with so many brilliant, ambitious women who feel stuck. Overwhelmed. Drained. They’ve built incredible businesses, but they’re running themselves into the ground constantly aiming for the “next thing”. They love their families deeply but they feel buried under the weight of juggling motherhood and business. And they can’t see a way out.
They tell me, “I don’t have a choice.”
But that’s rarely true.
What’s usually true is: “I’m too overwhelmed to see my options.”
Because when you’re in survival mode – juggling a thousand balls, overextending yourself, trying to please everyone – it’s hard to pause and reassess. It’s hard to even think about what else might be possible. But that doesn’t mean the options don’t exist.
You can change your routines. You can restructure your business. You can shift your schedule, your mindset, your habits. You can make different decisions that better support your energy and your peace.
You can choose again. You get to choose again.
Permission to Redefine
I say this with love – if something in your life feels heavy, unaligned, or just off – you do not have to keep doing it.
You do not have to keep saying “yes” to things that drain you. You do not have to keep proving yourself by working harder and pushing through. You do not have to cling to something just because it used to work, or it’s what people expect of you.
You are allowed to evolve. You are allowed to choose differently. You are allowed to rewrite the rules.
And you’re allowed to do it over and over again.
What worked for you two years ago might not fit anymore. What made sense when your kids were babies might not be serving you now. That version of success that once motivated you? It might need updating.
So take a breath. Tune into your body. Pay attention to the signals – fatigue, resistance, resentment. Those are invitations to choose differently.
This Is the Work We Do in SIMPLIFY
Inside my hybrid programme SIMPLIFY, this is the exact space we hold. It’s about peeling back the layers, tuning into your energy and values, and getting crystal clear on what’s actually aligned for you. Not just what looks good on paper. Not just what you feel you should do.
The women in SIMPLIFY aren’t giving up on things – they are choosing wisely, and with intention. They’re creating businesses and lives that feel good. And they’re doing it with support, clarity, and a strong sense of self.
If that’s the kind of life you’re craving – one that honours your needs, your energy, and your version of success – I’d love to invite you to take a closer look at SIMPLIFY.
You Get to Choose
Here’s what I want you to remember: You are never as stuck as you think you are. You are not powerless. You are not at the mercy of everyone else’s needs.
You can pause. You can reassess. You can choose again.
And every time you do, you’re one step closer to the life that feels like yours.
Remember – you get to write (and then rewrite) the rules.